I don't think that 26 is much of a milestone, but I definitely learned a lot over the course of my life. I've had some tough lessons. We all go through them, but without going into too many details, I can guarantee you that my life is NOT normal, so most of the things I learned helped craft me differently. I know, "blah blah blah yeah sure, you're different like all of these other IG girls, move it along." Trust, you have no idea, but moving along we shall.
This is not a shoe blog. In fact, a mentor told me to not veer off your blog's theme when you have a small following, but I needed to write this. These are four things I have learned in life and live by. I'm about to pour some tea, so get your favorite mug.
1.) God must be the center of your world in order for anything to work. It doesn't matter what decision or move you're trying to make, know that He is in everything and is everywhere. Dassit.
2.) Friends can come and go. Don't take it seriously. This was especially hard to learn. For years I told myself that I didn't know how to keep friends. I thought I was toxic (which is ironic because I'm just too shy and awkward to talk to). I thought I couldn't commit to people. Yet, this life is so cute, that it makes things happen, and then distance grows. It was never me, or the other person. It was life. There is always a reason why God chooses to make things happen. Maybe you are too toxic for that person, or vise versa. Whatever it is, make sure your tears are worth it.
3.) Temporary things are not fulfilling. Invest. Whether that be love, a purse, a relationship, or underwear. Don't cling onto cheap, diluted, unsatisfactory one-time joys. Did you get a gut feeling that guy/gal was wrong for you? Did you buy it because it was on sale? Did you figure it wouldn't last anyway? Nah, don't come around talking about some fake investment, talking about we're "just friends", talking about it's kind of cute. Life is too precious to spoil it on something temporary. Respect yourself. Invest. (Side note: That also means don't make a permanent or rash decision on a temporary situation.)
4.) Take control of your emotions. This one is easier said, than done. My mom always taught me that if you don't learn how to control them, you will never be satisfied, and you will always be frustrated. You will find yourself victimizing yourself, saying things you don't mean, or worse, putting your nation at the brink of a nuclear war. You have the authority to control how you feel.
Now that I am a year older, I can truly look back and see much progress that has been made with my life choices. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6)
When it comes to sneakers, I'm a little more on the conservative side, meaning I only own a few pairs. To be perfectly honest, I mostly wore sneakers as a kid, but quickly found myself uninterested as a teen. I did however wear the crap out of two pairs: my Converses with floral laces, and blue old school Vans, but mostly the latter. I wore my Vans everywhere! Passover ceremonies (yes, with a dress), to work (I worked at a sandwich shop and got hot sauce all over them), to school, you name it! They have always had a place in my heart because of the many adventures we went on together. A year ago, I decided to get a new pair because we have to move on eventually, and found a pair that matched my "now." Best part, they're pale pink!!
When Vans began it's business in the sixties in Anaheim, the hope was to sell boat shoes at the right fit, but they never thought skaters would find an interest. People started asking for custom fabrics on their shoes, and kids began drawing all over the plain decks. The most common drawn design: checkered. Over time, Vans began to transform their boat shoe, and created high-tops for skaters, that couldn't seem to keep their hands off of them ("Off the wall" was added on the label to identify the ones that were for skaters). Now, Vans are created in so many designs and colors and are still loved by many, myself included! I clearly do NOT skate (the last time I tried, I was about 9 and knew it wasn't for me when I hurt my bum), but the comfort I find in these sneakers is unbeatable. They last forever, and how can you not like canvas? I seriously wear them all the time; with a dress, jeans and my favorite sweater. I love them so much, I bought my niece a matching pair!
Gladiators are a staple for me. I have always loved them and every year I find myself searching for a new pair. These days, I don't buy anything unless I know I love it, but since I'm so simple and clearly smitten with anything tan, I was overtaken by these gladiator sandals from Urban Outfitters. I can always count on UO to have a sturdy pair of sandals, so I was pretty excited when I walked in recently.
In Houston, you can wear sandals through November, so I wanted my last summer pick to be a transitional one. Although gladiators are the kind of sandal you either hate or love (I don't think there's ever been an in-between), I really feel like they should be in everyone's closet! With autumn approaching, they can easily be worn with a sweater and jeans, a jacket and dress, or even with leggings and a comfy sweatshirt! For this shoot, I wore these sandals with my high-low Chloe Dao dress. I have seen gladiators in so many different styles,: with colorful puffs, beads, and even pieces of metal plates. But you know me!